10 surprising reasons your stressed

I always find the best stories and ideas from Woman's Magazine and therefore want to share with you. Being a stay-at-home mom, maid, cleaner's, hair dresser, massage therapist, Avon rep, taxi and so on I can relate to stress and I know you can too. So take a deep breath.... and read.



Which do you think is the most damaging to your health?

A. Lose a Job

B. messy house

C. a major blow out with your friends



If you picked both B and C then your right.



1. People who say yes when they mean no.

You have friends that make plans with you then show up late or cancel at the last minute. SO guess what goes up? Your stress." Research shows that ambiguous relationships where you can't predict whether an encounter will be positive or negative from one day to the next can take a greater toll on you than a relationship with someone you consciously dislike" says Elizabeth Scott, stress management guide for about.com



2. Rude encounters from sales people

you go to check out and the sales person ignores you and does not even do what you request, like double bagging, changes your attitude goes from bad to worse in 2.5 seconds. Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book A Happy you:Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. This sends us into fight or slight mode, we either want to be rude right back, or we walk away feeling bad about ourselves."



3. does anyone else see the mess?

This is a common question in my house, and I wish they would listen when they hear it. Now this is good so if you want proof to show your husband get the September issue of Woman's Day.

"Research on men's brains shows that they take in fewer sensory details than women and don't see or feel mess in the same way we do." says Alice Domar, PhD, executive director of the Domar Center for Mind,Body health in Waltham, Massachusetts. And of course kids generally don't care, so in other words your desire for clean is not a high priority for others.



4.If you need help please press 1

Automated customer Service. Need I say more. I know for me just to get to the right number to push to get a real person takes about 10-15 minutes, or if the automative choices are voice sensitive and you have little ones running around asking you 20 questions just cause you got on the phone to begin with, ends up taking 2 or 4 calls altogether just to get through. Enough already. "These systems were designed to save companies money," says Walt Tetschner, Get2Human.com consumer advocate, "but they often take too long to get to a person, are illogically designed and end u losing customers who get angry and impatient."



5.Can I get a little quiet?

No wonder we can't distress-right now as I write this my 7 yr old has to ask me question after question and I am having a difficult time concentrating on writing. It is just about impossible to find some quiet time alone. "Everyone needs some time without noise and demands, to recharge her batteries," says Meghan McDonough, author of the upcoming book A Minute for Me. "Wherever your attention is focused is where all your energy will flow. A little solution can redirect it back to you."



6. my husband drives me crazy!

OK this happens all the time, It's just part of being married, or is it?

They say opposites attract, and it's true that many of us look for someone who has qualities we lack. However, the key to a successful relationship is not having the same personality traits, but having similar attitudes about major issues. "After a few years, we tend to look past our commonalities and focus on personality issues, which become one of the most common areas of marital stress," says Dr. Lombardo "what once attracted you his generosity, his sense of humor is now a major irritant."

6. packing in too many to do's

I don't know about you but for me they come in waves. Some days I have nothing then bam, I will have about 2 or 3 things to do and my list will grow and my day is gone.

Even if you don't mind your daily errands and you have the energy for it; the question is, are your days so packed that one small hiccup throws you onto a tizzy?
Everyone needs breathing space so small things don't seem huge ordeals. Start your day rushing and you trigger the stress response that will last all day.

8. Who is that in the mirror?

Do you look in the mirror and see the mom look? hair pulled back for comfort, no make-up and clothes that are comfy and not flattering, meanwhile your kids have the latest clothes, and you run yourself ragged to get home and make dinner so your husband can go to the gym after work. "The mirror is a subtle reminder that, while you take care of everyone else, you aren't taking care of your self," There's also a strong correlation between how you present yourself to the world reacts to you. When you project project a positive aura, people respond positively. It's hard to feel bad when your getting good feedback.

9. is anyone listening?

This has to be my biggest pet peeves. I feel very strong about this one and that no one in my family listens to a thing I say, then when something happens I get blamed because they say I never told them, when in fact I did. Need I say more?Your kids can talk about everything going on in today's world but can't remember what you say, your hubby goes to the store for milk and comes home with ice cream and cookies. You think is anyone listening to what I say? "Not feeling connected to your loved ones is a major source of stress," says Scott, " but we've accepted lives that preclude the art of talking and listening to each other and mastered instead the art of tuning out.

10. eating too few calories.

Anyone guilty of this? I am in the summer, I have to remind myself to eat before I pass out.

You are either too busy or you want to cut calories to lose weight. Naturally, your body goes into craving mode and you find yourself irritable, head achy and tired. You can either stay irritable, or eat and then blast yourself for breaking your diet. Forget counting calories and choose healthy snacks and small meals to keep up your energy and positive attitude for the day.

Most of my writing comes directly out of Woman's magazine. After reading this I just had to share with you. I know it makes me feel better that I am not going crazy and my feelings are validated by professionals who actually know what they are talking about. I would love to hear other's opinions on this. Why don't we turn this into the venting post that way everyone who needs to vent about whatever is bugging them can, then feel better after getting it off our chests. Plus it is always nice to share and have someone who agrees or understands. So I can't wait to share with you and vice verse. God Bless,

Rose