10 surprising reasons your stressed

I always find the best stories and ideas from Woman's Magazine and therefore want to share with you. Being a stay-at-home mom, maid, cleaner's, hair dresser, massage therapist, Avon rep, taxi and so on I can relate to stress and I know you can too. So take a deep breath.... and read.



Which do you think is the most damaging to your health?

A. Lose a Job

B. messy house

C. a major blow out with your friends



If you picked both B and C then your right.



1. People who say yes when they mean no.

You have friends that make plans with you then show up late or cancel at the last minute. SO guess what goes up? Your stress." Research shows that ambiguous relationships where you can't predict whether an encounter will be positive or negative from one day to the next can take a greater toll on you than a relationship with someone you consciously dislike" says Elizabeth Scott, stress management guide for about.com



2. Rude encounters from sales people

you go to check out and the sales person ignores you and does not even do what you request, like double bagging, changes your attitude goes from bad to worse in 2.5 seconds. Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book A Happy you:Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. This sends us into fight or slight mode, we either want to be rude right back, or we walk away feeling bad about ourselves."



3. does anyone else see the mess?

This is a common question in my house, and I wish they would listen when they hear it. Now this is good so if you want proof to show your husband get the September issue of Woman's Day.

"Research on men's brains shows that they take in fewer sensory details than women and don't see or feel mess in the same way we do." says Alice Domar, PhD, executive director of the Domar Center for Mind,Body health in Waltham, Massachusetts. And of course kids generally don't care, so in other words your desire for clean is not a high priority for others.



4.If you need help please press 1

Automated customer Service. Need I say more. I know for me just to get to the right number to push to get a real person takes about 10-15 minutes, or if the automative choices are voice sensitive and you have little ones running around asking you 20 questions just cause you got on the phone to begin with, ends up taking 2 or 4 calls altogether just to get through. Enough already. "These systems were designed to save companies money," says Walt Tetschner, Get2Human.com consumer advocate, "but they often take too long to get to a person, are illogically designed and end u losing customers who get angry and impatient."



5.Can I get a little quiet?

No wonder we can't distress-right now as I write this my 7 yr old has to ask me question after question and I am having a difficult time concentrating on writing. It is just about impossible to find some quiet time alone. "Everyone needs some time without noise and demands, to recharge her batteries," says Meghan McDonough, author of the upcoming book A Minute for Me. "Wherever your attention is focused is where all your energy will flow. A little solution can redirect it back to you."



6. my husband drives me crazy!

OK this happens all the time, It's just part of being married, or is it?

They say opposites attract, and it's true that many of us look for someone who has qualities we lack. However, the key to a successful relationship is not having the same personality traits, but having similar attitudes about major issues. "After a few years, we tend to look past our commonalities and focus on personality issues, which become one of the most common areas of marital stress," says Dr. Lombardo "what once attracted you his generosity, his sense of humor is now a major irritant."

6. packing in too many to do's

I don't know about you but for me they come in waves. Some days I have nothing then bam, I will have about 2 or 3 things to do and my list will grow and my day is gone.

Even if you don't mind your daily errands and you have the energy for it; the question is, are your days so packed that one small hiccup throws you onto a tizzy?
Everyone needs breathing space so small things don't seem huge ordeals. Start your day rushing and you trigger the stress response that will last all day.

8. Who is that in the mirror?

Do you look in the mirror and see the mom look? hair pulled back for comfort, no make-up and clothes that are comfy and not flattering, meanwhile your kids have the latest clothes, and you run yourself ragged to get home and make dinner so your husband can go to the gym after work. "The mirror is a subtle reminder that, while you take care of everyone else, you aren't taking care of your self," There's also a strong correlation between how you present yourself to the world reacts to you. When you project project a positive aura, people respond positively. It's hard to feel bad when your getting good feedback.

9. is anyone listening?

This has to be my biggest pet peeves. I feel very strong about this one and that no one in my family listens to a thing I say, then when something happens I get blamed because they say I never told them, when in fact I did. Need I say more?Your kids can talk about everything going on in today's world but can't remember what you say, your hubby goes to the store for milk and comes home with ice cream and cookies. You think is anyone listening to what I say? "Not feeling connected to your loved ones is a major source of stress," says Scott, " but we've accepted lives that preclude the art of talking and listening to each other and mastered instead the art of tuning out.

10. eating too few calories.

Anyone guilty of this? I am in the summer, I have to remind myself to eat before I pass out.

You are either too busy or you want to cut calories to lose weight. Naturally, your body goes into craving mode and you find yourself irritable, head achy and tired. You can either stay irritable, or eat and then blast yourself for breaking your diet. Forget counting calories and choose healthy snacks and small meals to keep up your energy and positive attitude for the day.

Most of my writing comes directly out of Woman's magazine. After reading this I just had to share with you. I know it makes me feel better that I am not going crazy and my feelings are validated by professionals who actually know what they are talking about. I would love to hear other's opinions on this. Why don't we turn this into the venting post that way everyone who needs to vent about whatever is bugging them can, then feel better after getting it off our chests. Plus it is always nice to share and have someone who agrees or understands. So I can't wait to share with you and vice verse. God Bless,

Rose

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helping other's anyway you can!!

Today I was driving around with my kids running errands about ready to just explode. I don't know what it was that made today anymore stressful than the rest, so I decided to go to the gym and at least get a good work out. Well today was ladies night and they had vendor's galore all in front not to mention the Oklahoma blood donation bus on the front lawn. I thought about donating my blood but was not to sure just yet. I went thru my workout met great people got some news clients and left feeling extra special and grateful then I saw the bus. So I took my kids home told my husband I would be back after I donate my blood. I have always wanted to do this especially more often since I am 0- but the last 2 times I did I got massive bruises and a lot of pain. Some how I knew today would be different, and I was right. They had no problem finding my small rolling veins, I didn't bruise and have no pain or dizziness. So that left me feeling even better for doing my part to help other's. I tend to go above and beyond to do whatever I can to help and sometimes it annoys my husband, but that is just they way I am. So I have been trying to pick my volunteer works closely and still be around for the family. Someone always told me:
Any little thing you can think of to help other's is a big deal so don't ever think your not doing enough cause you are. I remind myself of that everyday. So on that note I would love to hear from you on one of your favorite volunteer stories. In fact every person who participates with this will be entered in a drawing for a free skin-so-soft basket (a $30 value) for just sharing your stories. I will let this run until Aug 12Th, 2009 and email the winner along with announcing in a blog. Please send me a private message with your email so I may contact you when you win. Good Luck and I cant wait to read your stories.

back to school deals

Now is the time. Parents and kids are all getting excited and planning for next school year. I was on my friends site and found a great blog and link to help with so many mother's on planning and saving for the ultimate school shopping trip. As much as I would have loved to think of it first, I didn't so it is only fair of me to send you to her and help as many mother's and father's as possible. I will be posting more links and tips this week on other savings and ideas from other parents who have been doing this for awhile and with multiple children. Today is the time to save as much and still be able to get all needed for all of the wonderful children. Don't forget to check out www.myhouseholdjunk.com and see for yourself what a wonderful site it is.
God Bless,
Heather

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real fire safety lessons

Today I was running errands and the thought of talking to the fire dept about fire safety popped into my head, so I headed to the neighborhood station and asked if I could bring my 2 girls in to learn about fire safety and fireworks safety. Of course they said bring them right in and that is what I did. We spent about 30 Min's learning about the station their trucks and tools they use, and how to leave all fire starters, candles and so on to the grown ups, they also talked about drills and plans for the family in case of an emergency. It was a great idea and the girls had a blast. My 5 yr old is very curious and has little impulse control so i was a Little worried that she might not have listened or understood well. 30 Min's after coming home my husband smelled something so I went outside to see what it was and my neighbor's house across the street was on fire. It was wild and very smoky. My house even smelled like smoke for hours.. My girls got a hands on lesson from the firemen and then saw the result of what happens if your house does catch fire. Now I am not worried cause my daughter understood and talked to me about safety. Everyone in the house was safe even the cat. It is a sad event but at least my kids were able to learn from it. God works in mysterious ways. Everyone please have a safe and fun fourth. God Bless

Summer myths busted

Good day everyone. Today's post is from Women's Day Magazine. I found some good articles and wanted to share them with you.

Summer Myths Busted.

How many times have you heard your mom tell you things on what not to do that sounded believable but turns out they were said just to keep you safe, in all honesty they probably heard them from their mom's and so on. I have been guilty of using some of these on my own children just cause I thought it was the right thing to do. It still may be right for your family it certainly won't hurt anyone. I will leave this up to you and your judgement as I wanted to get what I found out to the public and also share some of my own experiences with you.

myth 1. Always wait an hour after eating before going swimming.
I still hear this one and use it, it is basically use your best judgement on each situation.
truth: If your child is going to the pool to play then there is no need for them to sit out. There's no evidence that eating right before swimming will increase the risks of cramps or drowning. That said strenuous swimming like laps, soon after eating could interfere with digestion and lead to stomachaches.

myth 2. A t-shirt over a bathing suit blocks out the sun. Yes I am guilt of this one too.
truth: A white t-shirt has the SPF of 3. So basically you need to apply sunscreen 20 Min's before going into the sun and reapply after swimming. The sun is a lot stronger than when we were little so protect your babies and teach them how to take care of their own bodies when the sun is involved.

myth 3. poison ivy rashes are contagious.
truth: it's the oil from the plant that causes the red, itchy rash; once you wash it off your not contagious. So always have kids wash off arms, legs, feet and hands with soap and water after playing in the woods.

myth 4: Sparklers are a safe alternate to fireworks. Ya that's what some people say but I won't let my kids do them alone until they are at least 7 yrs old. Basically it comes down to parental supervision and proper teaching to your children; using common sense.
Truth: They are NOT. two-thirds of sparkler related injuries were in child 5 and younger.

I hope some of these little finds were helpful, if not just comment and ask what questions you have and I will be happy to look them up for you. I hope you all have a safe and fun filled Independence Day.

God Bless,
Rose